Hi! Shocker I’m here on a Wednesday! But it’s time for Let’s Look, my monthly link up with Shay, where we take a deeper look at some of the things in our lives. Here’s a little recap of what we’ve discussed so far this year…
In January, we chatted about THINGS WE OUTSOURCE WITHOUT REGRET.
In February, we discussed WAYS WE’VE TURNED INTO OUR PARENTS.
In March, we talked about our FAVORITE FAMILY VACATIONS!
In April, we shared THE HARDEST THINGS WE’VE EVER DONE.
This month we’re talking about MAKING COUPLE FRIENDS! I want to preface this post by saying a few things…
- Making friends is hard.
- Making couple friends where you and your spouse both “click” with the other couple is hard.
- Sometimes it’s just hard to find your people.
- If you’re struggling, pray about this!
I don’t want to write this post and have you think it was extremely easy for us. It wasn’t. It’s hard! There were early times we struggled to find our people. But keep trying, keep praying and that hard work will pay off!
I decided I’m going to share some of the ways we met our friends…
*A women’s Bible Study Group turned Friend Group-years ago, I joined a new Bible Study group of random women. We met. We continued to meet. We became this group of friends who can pick up right where we left off even if we’ve gone months without seeing each other. Over time Tab met all the husbands {some he already knew through church} and now we could meet up with any of these couples and have a good time. Moral to this little story…if you’re looking for friends, join a Bible Study or get plugged in at church!
*Put yourself out there-I honestly don’t even remember who invited who to what first but we became friends with the Shulls years ago. If you’ve read here or ever listened to our podcast, you’ve probably heard the story of how infertility drew us together. Anyway, there are seasons {like football season} where we get dinner together almost weekly but there are other seasons we’re going in different directions and have to get a date on the calendar weeks in advance to connect.
*Get involved in your kids’ activities-Whether it’s a sport, theater, band, or the robotics team…whatever your kid is involved in, get to know those other parents. I’ve been on the same sidelines with these ladies since Ebby Lee was a seventh grade cheerleader. The more you hang out, the more fun those games are to watch!
*Travel sports parents become friends-Travel sports are an entirely different program when it comes to getting to know parents because you end up traveling with other people, sharing many meals with other people, and seeing them a LOT. Once again, the more you get to know these other parents, the more fun it will be. Bowen’s team has an upcoming out of town tournament. We’re sharing a house with three other families that we’ve known for years and who are all our friends now.
*Get to know your neighbors-We’ve gone to dinner with our neighbors, had many fun events, meet up in the street, walk to catch up, usually are spending Christmas Day observing all the new “toys” in the neighborhood, and so much more. If you’re new to an area, this is such a good way to get plugged in quickly is by getting to know those who live closest to you.
*Let kids connect you-I think it’s THE easiest to meet friends through your kids so whether it’s at elementary school pick ups, during baseball practice weekly, or on the sidelines of the football games…get to know those moms and dads of your kids’ friends.
I know nothing that I mentioned was rocket science BUT I hope this post today inspired you a bit to reach out. If you’re like me, I can get tied down with kids things and almost forget to look outside these four walls to check on my friends. Let this post just serve as a little reminder to reach out to a friend…new or old today. Thank you for reading!! Hope you’re having a great week!
Join us next month when we share what we’re making time for…
XO
