Happy Wednesday! We’re BACK from our MAGICAL CHEER getaway at Walt Disney World! What a great time with the cheerleaders, the coaches, and fellow cheer moms! We had a blast doing all the Disney things, but it’s nice to be home. I also should give a little shout out plug here to Tab who does a great job holding down the fort while I’m gone. He’s been a girl dad for almost sixteen years and well, he just perfected the ponytail. ha!
Shay and I are here with our second Let’s Look of the year! So far we’ve covered…
January-We covered our Low Level Goals. These are the goals that will make us feel productive but aren’t anything too difficult. I’m happy to report one item has already been crossed off my list!
This month because it’s the LOVE MONTH, we’re talking about HOW WE WORK ON OUR MARRIAGES! Before I dive into some marriage talk, I thought I’d share a few posts from the archives that cover this topic…
*We’re Talking Marriage Part 1
*We’re Talking Marriage Part 2
I’m by no means a marriage expert, but I’ve been a part of a really great marriage for five years and we’ve been married almost twenty years. haha! I kid. {Kind of!} Marriage takes a lot of work. It takes a lot of selfless effort, lots of love, lots of sacrifice, and can be so much fun. These are some ways we’re really working on our marriage right now with four kiddos…
*Enjoy each other! I don’t wanna sound too much like my college minister but I just can’t help myself. If you fight often with your boyfriend, well he’s probably not gonna make the best husband. Who wants to spend most of their married life fighting? Not me! I think this kind of goes back to the beginning but find someone you truly ENJOY spending your time with. Marry that one. 😉 Tab and I enjoy doing things together, going to dinner, traveling, and just spending time together.
*Focus on the good. There are some major things I do on the daily that can probably be really annoying but in a marriage it’s better to focus on the good. If Tab focused on all my shortcomings, that would be problematic for both of us! But there are many things I excel at and that’s where he should keep his focus. Know what I mean? For instance while I was out of town there are lots of things Tab didn’t do that I could have focused on, but he took care of the three kids at home, plus took care of Champ, shuffled kids around, and still had to work. He did a lot and did it well! That’s where my focus should stay.
*How can I help? This is a phrase that all moms LOVE to hear! Am I right? I TRY to remember to ask Tab that same question when he has lots going on. {Not saying I’m a professional at this one, but I highly recommend it.}
*Treat him how I want to be treated. I’m pretty sure we’ve probably all covered this with our kids since the preschool days but it works in marriage too!
*Continue working. Tab and I both put a LOT of time, energy, and effort into our relationship when we were dating. While we’ve added lots of kids, jobs, and new responsibilities it’s often important to remember we also need to keep working on us. 🙂
That’s about all I have for you today! Next month we’re discussing how we reset for the week on Sundays. I just got in from Walt Disney World and didn’t really do my reset and feel SO STRANGE! I have lots of things I like to do. :). Hope to see you back here on Friday!
XO
What a great topic and advice! Thanks for sharing!
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Thank you!
I don’t comment often because for some reason, it isn’t available on my end. Browser issues I suspect, but I am not tech savvy, so who knows. 😂
My husband travels for work as well, so I know that takes a different kind of effort in marriage. Doing it “single”, wishing you had extra help, then adjusting to the help coming back…all the things with it. I seems like you all make a lot of effort to have time together as a couple and reconnect. I think, in my marriage, that is so very important because Chris is gone often. It helps keep the marriage and parenting on the same team, even in his absence.
Good job!
And I thrilled I got to post. I read have read your blog for a decade.
Oh Paula! Thank you so much for commenting! I completely understand what you’re talking about! It takes us a minute in August to get used to Tab traveling as much as he does and then we have to readjust in January when he’s home again.
I love your focus on positivity while still being realistic that marriage is hard work! Have a wonderful day!
Thank you, Jess!
I LOVE find the good. We are all “good” people doing our best but yet how quickly I forget that when my husband annoys me. I love this list!
HAHA! He’s probably the first I forget it about!
That picture of y’all is so good! I know you were looking for something for your mantle….. I’m thinking a really large canvas of that pic could be it. 😉