Today, is HOW WE WEDNESDAY! The day of the month where Shay and I share HOW WE do something, in hopes you’ll share HOW YOU do something as well. And let me be real honest, today I’m hoping you share a LOT of HOW YOU do it. 🙂 This month’s topic is HOW WE…MOTIVATE OUR KIDDOS.
In case you’ve missed any posts from this past year…
*In January, we shared HOW WE…DO GOALS/RESOLUTIONS.
*In February, we discussed HOW WE…TAKE CARE OF OURSELVES.
*In March, we talked HOW WE…MOM FAIL.
*And April, we shared HOW WE…ORGANIZE AND SPRING CLEAN.
*In May, we discussed HOW WE…TRANSITION OUR WARDROBES.
*And last month, we shared HOW WE…PLAN SUMMER VACATIONS.
I’m pretty sure this topic can be taken a wide variety of ways…motivating kiddos to try their best in school, motivating kiddos to pick up after themselves, motivating kiddos to play their hardest in sports, and on and on. I’m going to stick to overall-motivating them in general. 🙂
I want you to know I am by no means an expert on this topic, but I am happy to share what works for us (most of the time-we’ll get to that in a minute).
A few things I try my best to do (and don’t always-REAL LIFE here, friends!)-
*Each of my kiddos are very different. One wants to try her best at everything she does…room is always clean, homework is done without me ever mentioning it, great manners are always used just because…you get it. 🙂 It’s SO important for me to constantly remind myself they’re SO different and that’s okay. They are EXACTLY how God wanted them to be, but it is my job as their mom to celebrate their different personalities and also push them in ways that work best for them.
*Celebrating milestones and accomplishments is HUGE. In a family with four kiddos, you just don’t get as much attention as you would in a smaller family so when someone does something they’ve tried hard on…we all celebrate!
*TONS of encouragement! It’s funny that I’m writing this just hours after losing my mama mind over the playroom being messy. Trust me…all encouragement went out the window. BUT, MOST of the time I try to be their encouragers. (Again-real life-I’m sure my neighbors got nervous and decided to pick up their playrooms too. #everyonecouldhearme)
*Rewards can be helpful, but I’ve gotta be honest-I struggle with rewarding them for things they should do on their own. I think as a parent-you know when it’s needed for that extra oomph of motivation and not needed because you’ve seen them do something hundreds of times before. Rewards don’t have to be a gift, toy, or something tangible…it can mean a later bedtime, sleeping in mom/dad’s room, or just one-on-one time with a parent.
*PRAYER!! It keeps this mama SANE! 🙂
I feel like during the school year we have a good thing going, but I’ve gotta be honest, my kiddos are in SUMMER MODE. It’s WAY harder for me to keep them motivated in the summer (around the house) than during the school year. Anyone else agree?? I’d love to hear how you’re doing this in your house. I’ve seen a ton of those charts about what your kiddo must do before he/she does this. In theory those are amazing, but for us, we’ve been out of town, have camps, and other things going on so it’s been hard to implement those when we haven’t had many “normal” weeks of summer. Any ideas…please send them my way!
I think that wraps it up for today! If you missed the post today, please join us next month when we chat about packing lunches.
Thanks for stopping by!