Real Mom

Let me introduce you today to my friend, Allison.  Allison is a mama to three and lives in McKinney, Texas.  We met a few years ago at Obstacle Ninja Warrior, discussed all things adoption, became social media friends, and just bonded over our China babies.  Allison has a special way with words and just this week she wrote a post about adoption that was absolutely AMAZING.  The entire time I was reading I related to everything she said.  And I couldn’t let the week pass by without sharing it with you.

You HAVE to go read her post!  Seriously!  Go check it out now!  Here’s the link…

Thank you, Allison, for sharing your heart!

Here’s to hoping the “Carols” of the world learned a little something from reading today.  One real mom times four signing off now.  Thanks for reading, friends.

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  1. 10.24.19
    Sheaffer {Pinterest Told Me To} said:

    Off to read the other post! Love that you made a friend at Ninja Warrior! 🙂

  2. 10.24.19
    Mix and Match Mama said:

    I love this. xo

  3. 10.24.19
    Anonymous said:

    Going to check this out. ❤️

  4. 10.24.19
    Unknown said:

    this was beautiful.

  5. 10.24.19
    Becky said:

    I am also an adoptive mom and I am as real as it gets….My oldest daughter has triplets and taking them out always brought on a lot of comments. "Ugh, I would kill myself.' 'I am glad it isn't me.' etc…One day I was pushing them and a man asked, 'Are they real?' For once I was quick enough to reply, 'No, they are plastic!' I loved your friends post.

  6. 10.24.19
    Paula said:

    I love her post. I am not an adoptive mother. However, I have a severely disabled daughter as well have twins and the comments some times…they are uneducated, often hurtful and rude.

  7. 10.24.19
    Ann said:

    Great post. My kids are 25 and almost 30. I would get asked 'do you know their real mom?' Most of the time I would simply say 'we know quite a bit about their biological mom' and then move on. If I was feeling particularly feisty, I would say 'yes, I know a ton about her' and then begin describing myself and just keep talking to the clicked to what I was doing! LOL
    I love reading your posts, You and Shay are doing great jobs raising your kids!

  8. 10.24.19
    Elspeth Mizner said:

    What a beautiful story, thank you so much for sharing.

  9. 10.24.19
    Jen said:

    Thanks for sharing. It is so true. I also hate how the media will throw a adoptive kiddo under the bus when it is a "bad situation". I know biological kiddos who are just as bad

  10. 10.24.19
    Sassy Sarah said:

    Love love love this. I was adopted as a baby and my real mom is the one who I can call and ask how to make hard boiled eggs, who will drop everything and drive 4 hours when I was admitted to the hospital, and loves me with her whole entire heart. That's my real mom. She's right there next to me.

  11. 10.24.19
    Unknown said:

    what a beautiful way of putting the real Mom story. They do not have to have your DNA,to be your child. I work in a High School and have many children call me Mom.Because I make them do the thing they are suppose too. Praise them encourage them, Wipe tears, share in their joy. I watch them cross the stage to graduate, and cry. They come back to see me all the time, send photos of their lives , How my love of them made them believe in their selfies. Children can be yours no matter where they come from

  12. 10.24.19
    Kim S. said:

    Thank you for sharing this. We have an adopted son of a different race and while I have never gotten that comment I have gotten others. Such a good reminder of what a real mom is!

  13. 10.24.19
    Amanda @ That Inspired Chick said:

    Sassy Sarah's comment just made me tear up. So sweet. Haven't read the article yet but you are an awesome mom all four of your precious kiddos are lucky to have you! 😘

  14. 10.25.19 said:

    Love this. Some people just have "foot in mouth disease" typically caused by being completely oblivious as to how their words affect others. My husband is adopted, and he recently discovered who his bio mom is through DNA testing. However, he would never refer to her as his mom. His mom is the woman who raised him.The only thing he wanted to tell his biological mother when they first spoke was "Thank you". He is so grateful that he was adopted and raised by such wonderful people. He is so thankful for the childhood he was blessed by because of his REAL parents who adopted him 😊

  15. 10.25.19
    Mactoyourcheese said:

    Thank you for sharing…her post was great…real mom’s everywhere, are amazing!!! ❤️

  16. 10.28.19
    bh said:

    I am not supporting rude comments by strangers (or anyone!) but first mothers are just as real as adoptive mothers – just because their social and/or Financial conditions are not as privileged doesn't make me fake. I am sure the vast majority of them would love Nothing more than make hard boiled eggs for them. You Don't have to dismiss them to feel secure as adoptive parents.