Today girls…I’m getting real about something very near and dear to my heart….friendships. I’m in the middle of reading “The Power of a Positive Mom” (I’ll share more details when I’m finished) and the chapter I read yesterday was all about friendships. As I was reading, I thought to myself…”Why is this so hard for women sometimes?”. As women we tend to yearn for good girlfriends. I think we NEED those relationships (usually) a lot more than men. I know I do. But for some reason, some of us just aren’t that good at them.
Think about the friends in your life. Not the acquaintances, but the real friends you have in your life. How do you treat them? Do you build them up? Do you encourage them? Do you give them grace when they’re having a rough day? Or…do you talk about them behind their back? Do you complain about them to your spouse or another friend? What kind of friend are you?
This is the kind of friend I want to be and these are the kinds of friends I want in my life. I want to be building others up and I want friends who will lift me up too.
At my Bible Study this week, (the leaders are married) the wife was telling about a rough patch in their marriage and she said it finally took a good girlfriend telling her that she was looking at things the wrong way. I want girlfriends that will tell me TO MY FACE that I’m out of line. I don’t want girlfriends that are just going to talk about it BEHIND MY BACK.
I think the great girlfriends in my life are true blessings. I get asked a lot about my group of friends (probably because we put our lives out there in blog world…ha!). The most asked question is, “How did you guys become such good friends?”. To that I always say….
#1 Time
…well it takes time. You have to spend time with friends before you can know if you can trust them, right?
#2 Be REAL
It also takes both parties in the friendship being REAL. If I’m telling a friend all my deepest darkest secrets and she isn’t sharing a thing, then it’s probably not a tight friendship. You know what I mean? You both have to be real and a little vulnerable.
#3 Effort
And it takes effort from both sides. One friend should never be the only one inviting the other to do something. You both should be putting forth a mutual amount of effort.
Today I just want to encourage you….let’s build each other up!! If you have a good friend in your life, you are BLESSED!! Maybe you’re still searching for some true friendships, if that’s the case PRAY about finding some real authentic friends.
Thanks for letting me spill my heart a little bit today. I’m praying today….that each of you have someone to pick you up when you fall, that you remember-if you do have some good girlfriends you are BLESSED, and for those of you searching for some good friends, I pray that you’ll find them.
Let’s build each other up, ladies!! Have a GREAT day! XOXO
